When we think of a mother’s love, the first thing that comes to our mind is UNCONDITIONAL. It is indeed so. We all know that fact. But, today I am going to talk about how a mother could also feel trapped in motherhood. Is it inhuman to say so? Does that mean that she doesn’t love her children anymore? Would you know the answer after listening to the following real life story of a mother (a very close friend of mine)?

Hi, I am Sia and I am a mother of 2 children. I was working with one of the best organizations in the world and was doing very well with my role. I took a break from work to deliver my first child and couldn’t go back and join work because there was no one to take care of the baby and I was not comfortable to leave my child with any stranger. Hence, I stayed back home and decided to take care of the baby.

After a few years, I had another child. I was no doubt a loving mother and completely enjoyed being with both my children and taking care of them. I never missed going to work and did the best for my children. I did everything for them without any help. My husband being busy with his work, could not participate much.

As my children grew, I gradually started to feel bored of doing the same thing for a long time. My elder one is 10 and younger one is almost 7 now. I have reached a stage where I feel trapped in the motherhood now. I can’t go back to work as I have taken a long break of 12 years and it has almost killed my confidence to go back to the corporate environment. Also, due to family issues, I am required to stay home.

Sometimes, I feel that I don’t enjoy my children as much as I did earlier. I am still doing everything for them because I love them and I feel responsible to raise them the best possible way, but somehow the mother in me is not that passionate. I don’t enjoy doing a lot of things with my children the same way as I used to. I sometimes do them because I have to as a part of my duty.

Am I a mother with vanishing love? It hurts me to feel a lesser mother because I know that I love my children.

I am hoping that this is just a phase of my life and I shall get back on track soon.


(Shared my story with mySestina. She is a close friend and suggested me to publish this on her blog, so here I am).

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19 thoughts on “Vanishing Mother’s Love?

  1. She is not alone. That’s the general gist of motherhood I’ve gotten from a lot of bloggers. I’ve yet to meet one who doesn’t sometime wish they could remove the role like a cloak for a day and throw on something a little bit more fun or sexy in its place.


  2. Hi, Sia! We also deserve a little break from everything. Maybe you just need to take some rest and pamper yourself every once in a while. Being a mom is exhausting and stressful with all of the things that you need to juggle. Think of the pros that you are a stay-at-home mom. You get to watch your family 24/7 compared to a working mom like me. Much as I want to be a hands-on mom, my being a breadwinner requires me to work to earn for our family. Count your blessings . Hugs for you!

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  3. zygs, tell your friend ” no need of any guilty feeling.. there is no harm in your feelings.. and you still love her kids as did earlier.. may be a bit confused on your present state and which make you think that you are not enjoying the time with kids as did earlier.”

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  4. I think it is normal what your friend feels, it can happen to everyone. I wonder if she knows who she is, apart of being a mother, when she is alone… Being a mother is one of the role we have in our lives but maybe there is another part of her who emerges now and wants to be heard? Perhaps something was neglected and wants to be seen or healed? If she can find happiness and love in herself for herself she will feel it back for her children – after all they are only mirrors of our emotions for ourselves.

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    1. It takes courage to speak out our heart. But, one feels confident and secure when they have the support of the people around. Your kind words are courageous and give strength. Thanks a lot dear Lisa.

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  5. I am a little worried at what I read, this might be normal but also could be depression, which can grow insidiously until it becomes dangerous. If Sia could see a professional just to rule out that possibility that might be a very good precaution. Otherwise getting involved with parent or community groups, studying online, art projects, taking the children to activities, parks or beautiful places, any of these might cheer her up. Motherhood is very hard and the mother’s mental health is very very important to the entire family’s welfare. Good luck!

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    1. You have mentioned a very important point here. She needs to start working towards her mental health. It is extremely important as she has the responsibility of two children on her. Thank you for suggesting simple yet wonderful ways in which she can help herself. I will surely pass on the message and really thank you for giving your time and kind concern.

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