Can we term Sexual abuse as terrorism?

My vote goes to say YES!! You want to ask why??

Because it has the capacity to terrorize the victim, fill them with grief and puts them into a state of mind which requires a lot of effort to come out of. Sexual abuse is been experienced by many children and I don’t think there is a way to find out the numbers, as most of the victims choose not to disclose it.

It is sad that a girl accepts the life where she is challenged everyday with sexual abuse out in the open. On the road – walking, in a bus – travelling, sitting alone in a park and many other places. She starts to think that those idiots have a sad frame of mind and she will have to deal with it and hence, she prepares herself which she must but the right way to deal with the problem is to deal with the culprits in a strict manner.

I have experienced it and there are many more like me. It could happen anywhere, be it home or outside. Everyday, using the local transport in New Delhi, made me so easily accessible for all those sick idiots. They would just stand close, giving an excuse that the bus is too crowded. They would rub their body against wherever they could get access to you. Their filthy looks and such shameless attitude.

The abuse can be intensive or not too intensive, yet, it leaves a mark on your mind never to be washed away. It kills you from the inside every moment.

Even till date, when I think of those days when I faced the abuse, I get goosebumps.

The question in my mind now is – how are my daughters going to face it? A challenge that haunts me!!

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86 thoughts on “sexual abuse = terrorism? yes! because the haunting never ends

  1. Raising the voice, preparing our daughters through awareness, making them stronger physically and mentally for such encounters will minimise some cases. We should also educate and make aware of social behaviours to our Sons also.

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  2. Really sad that we have been through abuse, and have to worry for our children’s safety surrounding this too. I’m glad you wrote this, it keeps the conversation going. Maybe that will be a catalyst for change? fingers crossed! Alexis

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  3. I know very well what that means. And you can not share that with anybody. That makes you lonely and mainly if you meet a true love you always have prejudices and fear. Also a shame

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      1. I met the love but couldn`t tell the whole true to that man . He took care about me but how to share that kind of thing, It is better to die. Take care!

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  4. There are very sick individuals in this world who get their jollies by terrorizing/controlling others through fear! Most of the time they tend to pick people who are timid and unsure of themselves in their demeanor because they are “sure” that the person like that will not object because of the feeling of shame that someone will tell them that it is their fault that they were dressed for it, or some other stupid reason, so they do not come forward! The greatest defense against those sick people is that of self confidence in demeanor and attitude, and making sure that the “victim” immediately makes a lot of noise and brings attention to the “sicky”! Best to let them know right off that they are not a valid target and that if the sick behavior continues the rest of the area will know them for who they are. This is good to teach your daughters, that no matter what they are wearing they are not the perpetrator of that and do not need to feel any shame for being molested…it is entirely the molester’s fault! And teach them to be confident in themselves and feel that they can and should object loudly to such treatment…offer to get the person to the police if they do not desist! If possible there is a nice physical solution whereby the girl can turn around and put their foot or fist in the appropriate painful place of the perpetrator while yelling loudly that they are a pervert who has assaulted them! (This depends on the culture they live in, though, personally I think it is entirely appropriate in self defense! I’m sorry if this solution offends anyone, but that is what I was taught as a girl to do if someone tried anything like that!) It doesn’t always save you, but it is a good effort at self defense!

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    1. you are absolutely right!! when we can’t change the culprit’s mind, we can always give them hard time by defending ourselves the proper way. This topic is so close everyone’s heart as it is of great importance in terms of girl’s safety. we are women, we have children whom we want to be not victimised of this sick attitude. Let’s all do what best we can in terms of trying to stop these perverts from going ahead and molesting others. Let’s come with more and more suggestions that may help all of us. thanks so much for reading and coming up with great ideas..

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  5. We as human beings need to discuss and find a way forward that is acceptable for all. Where are the boundaries located when interacting with each other? The scenarios you describe are clear cut, but some are more ambiguous. When is it appropriate to smile at (hopefully with) our fellow travellers and when is it required that we look away?
    Wouldn’t it be great if we could be as open as we are in this world – the blogging world? And yet, wouldn’t it be terrifying? Trust and love are somehow hidden in the ‘real’ world. Hidden underneath greed for experience and lust for that which is not ours. This aspect of life has always been like a maze for me.
    Your post raises many questions for me, Zigyasa – questions that have no easy answers.

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      1. Sometimes I think that males and females are just part of a different species and the wonder is that we find enough in common to be able to come together for sufficient time to have and raise children. I think our experiences in the world are definitely different and that we really need to communicate and listen in order to make this a good and safe place for everyone.

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      2. Your comment makes me think.. really think… it could actually be true… we may be mistaken to be thinking we are the same species… this is such a great insightful matter to be discussed.. would love to write about it…

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      3. One of Ayn Rand’s books was one that came up as I researched my last article. ‘Atlas Shrugged’ was named over and over as the book that has caused the most harm to the world. I’ve never read The Fountainhead though – why do you like it?

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      4. i read it some 22 years back.. i could really relate to the main character in the book… how he is so himself, no matter what… I have Atlas Shrugged as well, also I believe that the first letter of the names of all the main characters in Fountainhead carried on to the Atlas Shrugged.. in the sense, the names of main characters in the book started with the same letters and also, mostly the characters were similar too, if i am not mistaken and if my memory is not cheating on me here

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  6. It is a very good question. I think the only answer lies in educating the boys. (If that includes a tad of beating the crap out of them, fair enough) 🙂 And strongly educating the boys before they turn into men (idiots). Not to mention zero tolerance from society and justice. 😦
    (PS, I live in South America where Machismo is very present. But it is the mothers who train their sons who be “machos”)

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  7. True..not just girls but young boys too fall prey to it and sometimes in the school itself..the menace should be identified by all and our children made aware…And about Delhi having lived there i feel its the worst city i have lived in…

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      1. yeah such incidents could happen anywhere even here in Mumbai…Its best to be alert always and create awareness amongst kids.

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  8. I work as a psychiatrist in a multidisciplinary team in a multi speciality Hospital , a first contact team to treat child victims of abuse as per Protection of Children from Sexual Offenses ( POCSO ) I also do trauma focused therapy with Adult survivors of child abuse . I am a survivor too , it is heartening to see that many talk about it and break the silence . It would help more to disclose and access help …Amazing !

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  9. I may not know what it’s like to be abuse sexually, but I know that it does hurt. Any kind of abuse does hurt, physically and mentally. It leaves a scar that never goes it is there but along with it comes experience on how to deal with the pain and it definitely makes a person stronger. I’m absolutely amazed how people manage to get trough this .

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